I HAD TO LET MY BEST FRIEND GO SHE BECAME OBSESSIVE & POSSESSIVE.

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We all have that one best friend that we grew up with from a young age. That one friend out the group we gravitate towards a little more than the others. In my case I was best friend with this girl from since the 4th grade we literally did everything together. We went to the same schools, she stayed over at my house almost everyday even on school nights. When ever her mother went out of town her mother would only trust to leave her at my house. We were glued to the hip you would never see one without seeing the other we were truly inseparable. This phase lasted from 4th grade to 8th grade and at that time you couldn’t tell me I didn’t find my BFF. When it came time for us to go to high school we would finally be split up we both got accepted to 2 different highschools. We were devastated but we didn’t really think it would matter that much because we did live just 3 blocks away from one another. Once we started highschool it’s like my best friend started turning into a whole new person which is expected because we are growing but things were just getting strange. She began talking like me, acting like me and even crying to me, telling me how much she wished she was me or atleast as pretty as me. The funny part is I always thought she was beautiful and always tried to reassure her but she just couldn’t see it herself. We were young so we were always on the move once outside of school. She would call me before we went out anywhere to ask me what I would be wearing I would tell her and she would show up everytime in a outfit that looked almost identical to mine. She would then start calling me asking me not to wear certain things because I will look way prettier than her. I just couldn’t understand how someone that I felt was beautiful felt so insecure about herself and why would she wants to dim my light just to brighten hers. I never complained I would just try to be a good friend and be considerate of her feelings, so to make her feel better I would just change my clothes. Eventually I noticed she started to wear the same things she asked me not too still trying to be a good friend I just left it alone because to me these were just little issues what could go wrong. As time went by and we started getting older we started finding our interest in boys and entered the dating world. I actually started dating first , every guy I spoke too I would later find out she was either trying to talk to them behind my back or was actually talking to them behind my back. At this point I’m like clearly this girl wants everything I have. I never confronted her on it because I felt like it didn’t matter as much because I wasn’t going to marry these people anyway but I made sure to keep a eye on her. She then found a boyfriend of her own. I couldn’t stand this boy because he was very arrogant rude and they were literally always fighting verbally and physically. She always wanted to hang out still but it would never be just us he would always have to be there he showed up any and everywhere no matter what. I became annoyed with them both and took a break from the friendship because I just could deal anymore. Approximately a year later we started talking again we spoke and I explained my anger with her and she apologized to me and we moved on. At this time I became a lot closer with my other friends in the circle and for some reason she was livid. She wrote me a bunch of long paragraphs basically telling me I wasn’t allowed to have more than one best friend and that I would have to choose. This did it for me I had to cut her lose she was being way too controlling. I blocked her on everything I could think of and moved on with my life. Then a few months later her crazy toxic boyfriend began writing me he would write me day in and day out I never responded so I didn’t understand why he wouldn’t stop. I never even liked him as a person so like why write me. I guess she may have seen that he was writing me , so she began writing me from a fake page. She wrote saying I’m jealous of her and I want her man I just blocked her again and continued to move on with my life. She came into my life as this sweet, fun, innocent girl and completely changed right before my eyes. I do feel like maybe she was like this all along but my love for her blinded me either way it’s always a lesson learned.